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How Henna Helps with Stress

How Henna Helps with Stress

It’s been a long time since I’ve had a real strong anxiety attack. I can track it down to my previous business attempts. Businesses I tried before I started doing henna.

There was nothing wrong with those business ideas. They were simply not meant for me. 

Two years ago I decided to let go. I remember it so well. I remember a call I had with my business coach for the time. She was certain I was doing great and had a great future in the area. I felt repelled by the whole idea. I realized that just because some people, highly respectable people in the area, think I have all I need to be successful doesn’t really mean it is my way to go.

I cancelled a workshop that had more than 115 people signed up for. I was supposed to teach them how to be unstoppable. That day I cut off my hair and cut off all ties with that business. I do not recommend you do the same. It was something I needed to do. I needed to hear my own voice through all this noise that was seeping through every crack.

Two months later I picked up my very first henna cone and never looked back.

Henna requires top notch concentration.

I have a lot going on. Just like any mom I have a lot to worry about. Have you ever seen this meme about what’s required from a mother in the 21st century? 

“How To Be A Mom in 2017: Make sure your children’s academic, emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, physical, nutritional, and social needs are met while being careful not to overstimulate, understimulate, improperly medicate, helicopter, or neglect them in a screen-free, processed foods-free, GMO-free, negative energy-free, plastic-free, body positive, socially conscious, egalitarian but also authoritative, nurturing but fostering of independence, gentle but not overly permissive, pesticide-free two-story, multilingual home preferably in a cul-de-sac with a backyard and 1.5 siblings spaced at least two year apart for proper development also don’t forget the coconut oil.

How To Be A Mom In Literally Every Generation Before Ours: Feed them sometimes.

(This is why we’re crazy.)” – Bunmi Laditan

pretty floral henna hand

When I have a cone of henna on my hand, all of this HAS TO go away. If I break my concentration, my lines become crooked and my designs start to show what’s on my mind. It brings so much satisfaction to see the lines build and create a cohesive, and sometimes not so much, haha, designs!

Henna is monochromatic

henna shins at the Azov Sea

Being a perfectionist and artistically inclined creates one big problem for me. Whenever it comes to color, I can spend hours, if not days, deciding which color combinations would work best together. Painting my house, or, rather, choosing the colors for my house, was agonizing. I still have to paint the master bedroom. We’ve lived here for eight years and I can’t decide on a color combo for my own bedroom! 

This is why the monochromatic aspect of henna is so relaxing to me. I can focus on thick and thin lines, spots and contrast and not worry about all of that coloring. My favorite benefit to that? If I do that with a black marker, it automatically becomes a coloring sheet for someone who prefers to color to relax.

What are your favorite ways to reduce stress?

Setting the Goals Through the Fog

Today is day 8 of the New Year and unlike the years before, I have no resolutions and no particular goals. This is very sad as I always strive to set my goals high and resolve to be a better version of me in the next year.

 

I do not want to add all the details in what and how happened; I simply do not want to re-live some of the experience 2016 added to my list. Let me just say it was not kind. Many might agree, others won’t.

 

Although it was a tough year, I still got to go home and visit my family most of which I hadn’t seen in more than 9 years and my boys had never had a pleasure to meet. It was a highlight of the year and most of it was a beautiful trip,  but it also had it’s own challenges and trials.

 

Last year I spent a lot of time in active meditation, writing and drawing. Lots of self-digging, personal improvement work and trying to see through the glass ceiling.

 

The foggy glass ceiling, may I add. Maybe there is not even a ceiling there, just the fog. The future is foggy and there are way too many uncertainties that make me anxious. Anxiety, fear of the unknown, lack of understanding of where I am being taken and why sit heavy in my heart.

 

Then my eyes catch a colorful piece of paper I had pasted onto my office wall in September of 2016. I read the words and feel my heartbeat starting to slow down.

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Let me tell you more about these. They are a result of several months of meditating and asking questions. They seem quite simple and straightforward but I remember I had to fight for every word.

God has shaped me and placed me where He needs me.

(I believe with all my heart that God’s hand is in everything there is and He has me here and now for a reason.)

 

His purpose is divine.

(Even if it looks foggy and unclear to me from my end of the road, it is still there. Did you ever drive into a patch of fog? You may slow down, turn the headlights on and keep extra cautious, but you are still moving through it, right? You are not going to stop in the middle of a road just because there is a foggy patch.)

 

I will see it once I’m ready.

(Sometimes the foggy patch is longer than I anticipate, and it is important to remember that the patch has its borders. The sun will shine again. Just keep pushing through.)

 

I have all the support I need in order to make it happen.

(Count my blessings! I am so blessed with a husband who gets me!)

 

My God will give me everything I need to live a life of abundance.

(Have faith, little heart. Have faith.)

 

These short and simple statements are called affirmations and they help me when my high-functioning anxiety creeps in and steals my sleep at night. They also help me see the purpose in my daily routine duties and chores. They help me see that even emptying the dishwasher brings more to my household than just the dishes being put away. It helps with keeping the kitchen organized, the counters clean and meals prepped with ease and on time.

 

If you find them helpful and would like to have one on your phone or on your wall, you are welcome to use this free download. Click on the image and download your *pdf file. All I ask in return is for you to let me know that you got one in the comments below.

 

May the Lord be with you!

5 affirmations

God’s purpose is divine

The wrench, the garage, and nails.

 

The wrench, the garage and nails

 

Today is day 3 of Labor Day weekend and for the first time in months, I feel like I actually have a day off. Does it ever happen to you? It sounds quite funny coming from myself, as sometimes I feel like my whole life is one long day off.

 

Working from home, homeschooling my kids and being home for the majority of the week kind of instills this idea that my life is a vacation. Only today I suddenly realized that I need a day off of my days off.

 

I have noticed that I am in the “what else can I do” mode a lot more often than I realize. I am multitasking all the time. Working in the office while my oldest is working on his school at the desk right across from mine. Folding laundry while he is doing school at the dinner table (one of the commodities of homeschooling is that you can bring school with you). Cooking several meals at a time so I can freeze some for future crazy days, and sometimes video recording them for my youtube channel. Oh, snap, you didn’t know I have a YouTube channel? Well, here is the link: WonderCloset Warrior YouTube Channel.

 

What makes today different? Is it the fact that I took time for myself to do my nails and couldn’t do anything while waiting for them to dry? Is it taking the hubs truck to get the tires changed and being stuck a bit waiting for the call? Is it him fixing the bikes this morning?

 

I got to tell you summers get really hot here in Texas. We survive by visiting our neighborhood pool in the mornings and staying in air-conditioned space for the rest of the day. When the fall arrives we spend as much time outside as we can. I dig in my garden. We take bike rides. We go to parks… Rewind to bike rides. I don’t know what it is about the bikes. It’s either the bikes are shrinking or my boys are growing. Either way, the bikes needed adjustments and since the dear husband was home I asked him to do that right away.

 

He showed the boys how to use a wrench and adjust their seats. Then he told me I completely capable of doing it myself and I didn’t have to wait for him to do that.

 

You know what? He is right.

 

I am completely capable.

 

And I am sort of handy. I’ve been fixing lights, outlets, mowing and edging the lawn, I know how to use a drill and how to find a stud. If there is something I don’t know how to do yet, I can find a tutorial and figure out.

 

The question is, though, why would I want to do it all by myself?

 

Why would you want to do it all by yourself?

 

Why would anyone want to do it all by themselves?

 

The truth is that you don’t have to. Unless you live alone on an island. Which is probably not the case if you are reading this.

 

We get caught into the “I can do it myself” so much , that we cause ourselves loneliness and overwhelm.

 

We start to feel like nothing gets done right unless we do it. Nothing ever changes unless we apply our energy to it. As we apply the energy to get things going, the same energy of pushing is being applied  to the people closest to us. They may start feeling unneeded and unwanted. We all know and understand what happens to a relationship when one party constantly feels unneeded.

 

I believe every person has this urge to be needed and to be useful in the group they belong to. If they don’t feel that way they tend to flake off and join a different group.

 

I said,

“ I know I am totally capable of using the wrench and pumping bikes’ tires. But that puts me in a spot where if i can do everything I must do everything. And I feel like I am doing enough already and don’t need yet another thing on my plate. I am blessed with a handy husband who knows how to fix things and I will be asking you to do them.”

 

I do have a handy husband who has turned our garage into a woodworking shop. So if the garage door open and you would take a peek inside you would never in life think a professional organizer lives here. We have huge tools sitting in the middle and an unfinished project waiting for the hands to be placed on it. My dear husband is building a king size bed for us and he agreed to put pull out drawers underneath for me. It has been too hot to work there in the summer so… we are waiting. I may be getting a new bed by Thanksgiving, the drawers are already done. He wanted to organize it today for it to be ready to work, but I had my nails appointment.

 

I am trying the J..y nail wraps, and no, I am not going to be selling them. I just kind of got really curious when I saw people being able to keep them on for  weeks and sometimes all I want is a finished manicure. The truth is that I won’t do a manicure at a salon, I am never happy with the results. And paying $25 for something that is going  to chip off in two or three days just doesn’t make sense to me. So I went to see me neighbor who happens to be a consultant and I am trying them on. I’ll let you know how it goes, because if it works, it is a huge time saver to me.

 

This is how the wrench, the garage, and the nails come together this cloudy morning.

 

Be a blessing and let others be a blessing, too.

Be a blessing and let other be a blessing to you

Be a blessing and let others be a blessing to you

How do you deal with a do-it-all-myself attitude? Do you find it advantageous? What works best for you in your relationships?